Before I launch into my rather massive linkfest this week, I’d like to cover an interesting discussion I’ve come across at the Wesabe forums lately, which I’ve been visiting in my spare time. This particular discussion is about dealing with spousal debt.
What do you do if your spouse has a spending addiction and is irresponsible about their finances? The consensus: don’t rely on a financial rescue package like the one the government has been using on our economy. Executing a bailout won’t resolve the problem behavior (and in fact may encourage it).
It gets pretty dicey when your partner racks up the credit card debt, and just doesn’t know how to stop spending. Here’s how the Wesabe community responds to this issue:
How To Handle Your Partner’s Credit Card Debt and Spending Addiction
#1 Don’t convert credit card debt into home equity debt. It’ll just free up your spouse’s cards so that he or she can do more damage. Unless you freeze or cut up those cards and commit to paying down debt, any loan modification efforts will only lead to increased spending temptations and additional debt.
#2 Encourage your spouse to seek debt and psychological counseling. This can be tricky. Have you ever seen the show on television called “Intervention”? You can only instigate change if you desire to. Unfortunately, many people don’t see their debt as a problem and continue to be in denial.
#3 Don’t bail your spouse out. Discuss the possibility of separating your finances with your partner who cannot manage their debt. See if you can work out an agreement wherein you keep separate financial accounts.
#4 Approach the issue with sensitivity. Be supportive and provide a positive attitude and loving approach to your spouse’s problems.
#5 Become your household’s main financial manager and give your spouse a spending allowance. Can you make your spouse agree to a financial plan? You’ll have to work as a team on this. You’re basically imposing strict limits on your household spending.
#6 Help your spouse gain more of a financial education. Provide your partner with financial resources such as books and articles on how to manage one’s money.
#7 Visit a financial professional: a debt counselor or a financial planner can help straighten out your financial issues and provide valuable input, third party observations and expertise to address your concerns.
As I mentioned, I picked up these situational pointers from the Wesabe community groups, where you can find more helpful discussions of the financial sort. It’s definitely a great place to visit!
Now on to some more discussions around the blogosphere….
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